The road to happiness- 4 ways to bring that smile back
Do you think owning a race car is cool? I do. I wanted one until the day I figured out my love for cycles. No offense, race cars are definitely are super cool, just not my thing. But those social media posts of millennials flexing their cars made me believe otherwise. I’d like to call it pseudo-belief, something that I believe in unknowingly under the influence of society.
“Belief” is one of the strongest yet, most dangerous feelings that humans experience because they’re not completely ours. The people around us tend to leave an impression and some opinions are so repetitive, or “popular” that we tend to accept them as our own. This is why we feel empty sometimes.
Those moments when you suddenly are sad with your life and can’t figure out why. So, if you ever wonder why can’t you be happy these days, here are 4 tips that will help you find your happiness.
1) Setting the right priorities
Getting influenced by people around you can often lead you to forget your priorities in life. Times, when you need to choose between working extra hours or going home to your family, are the times when you must pay attention to what matters to you and more importantly ask yourself which choice will make you regret the least in the future. Life goes by without people actually living it, so choose wisely.
2) Know yourself
To set your priorities, you must know yourself. We talk on topics from politics to sports to our celebrity crushes but how often about ourselves? What kind of a person am I? What do I want from life? What makes me happy? All these questions must be asked frequently to figure oneself out. Just talk, have a talk about yourself with anyone you feel comfortable with and try to figure yourself out. And trust me, you are complicated.
Knowing oneself and accepting all the strengths and flaws is the only way we can find what truly makes us happy and content.
3) The pressure to be a part of the pack
Not long ago one of my friends got off social media completely because she had started feeling this weird stress about her life being boring.
The vivid lives of others get us to think that we’re living a miserable one. You can’t let some random “internet person” decide where you’re going on a Saturday or if you are going anywhere at all! We unknowingly get influenced by people around us. And it is time we consider what we really want from our lives.
It is very easy to get affected by others and do what others do, own what they own, and believe what they make you believe but you must know that it is them and not you.
4) See yourself from a third-person perspective
I’ve tried this and it works super well (at least worked for me). Try and write or speak about the last year of your life as a spectator. You’ll see the course you’re leading and discover if you’re truly happy with it. If you are then, viola! You’re good! And if you’re not then, you can just mark the lines in your story that make you feel unsatisfied and then list out the reasons for your feelings.
Once you know the reason why you’re not satisfied with your own life, you can try and avoid such situations in the future thus, hoping for better. This is a process. So, keep writing your story until you feel that “this is the one, this is my story and I like that it’s mine.”
Life becomes super easy when you live for yourself.
I hope these methods help you lead a life where you don’t look back with a disappointed and regretful face but with a cute smile saying good memories and satisfaction.
